He’s just not that into you is a 2009 movie that, in the banality of its plot, brings to light a very common “problem” in female society: why don’t men behave as they should?


The main character of the movie is Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin), a very naive girl who looks for her prince charming but who is constantly disappointed by her dates. Although men spend nice time with her and say they’ll call her, they’ll never do. In her heart she always tries to justify them, sometimes taking upon herself faults that are not hers. But one day, instead of waiting for Connor (Kevin Connolly) to phone her, she takes the situation in hand and goes to look for him in his bar. Here she meets Connor (Kevin Connolly)‘s best friend, Alex (Justin Long) who, taking her situation at heart, explains her the whole truth about men.


If he wants you, he looks for you, and if he doesn’t look for you… then it means he doesn’t want you!

In addition, Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin) represents the generation that was taught as a child that if a child treats you badly then it means he likes you. That, unfortunately, is a conception carried out over time by a patriarchal society but that no longer adapts to the rediscovered feminist environment. If I had to explain to my daughter why a friend at school mistreated her I would surely answer that he is an idiot and to pay him back with the same coin.
Obviously, the film does not address issues such as the violence against the women and it held, fortunately, his thematics strictly on a more superficial level.


The movie is set in an age in which relationships no longer seem to be a serious thing but only a game in which we chase desperately in order not to be alone. It takes up the vein of Sex and the city, in fact, not surprisingly, it is inspired by the book of the same name written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, former scriptwriters of the series.

The other characters are all couples who have their problems and show different sides of the same coin. The beauty, however, is that they grow, mature and understand that to be happy and have their own happy ending there is no need to be loved but to love yourself.

Janine (Jennifer Connelly) has been married to Ben (Bradley Cooper) for many years but their pair is mismatched. Among her insecurities and fixations and his feeling of being in a cage, they face a series of betrayals, reconciliations and new beginnings. I did not particularly appreciate the acting of these two actors and I find that Bradley Cooper was still very immature. I much prefer it in the recent movie A star is born.

Beth (Jennifer Aniston) lives with Neil (Ben Affleck) but doesn’t feel happy because he doesn’t want to marry her. At the umpteenth refusal of the man, she decides to leave him. Then, finding herself in a moment of difficulty, she realizes how much more he was a husband to her than the spouses of her sisters who, despite having a piece of paper, do not support them. Despite Ben Affleck‘s mono-expressions, I like how his character was painted. And in particular, his change when he realizes that to be happy himself he must make the person next to him happy.

The dialogues between the characters are credible, indeed many things that are said could also be part of a real conversation between two lovers. The soundtrack, however, if it was present I did not notice. There was actually no characteristic song that I could associate with the film to this day.

The strength of this film is to face very common themes in today’s society in which many girls can find themselves (because let’s face it, it is not such an extraordinary or original artistic movie) but its one weakness is the ending. In fact, in order to respect the cliché of the positive conclusion of the romantic comedy, everything that is taught during the course of the movie is subverted, confirming my theory that it is not possible to generalize and make all the grass a bundle.

Or perhaps the happy ending is this: to know that despite the phone calls not received and the broken heart, despite all the foolishness and the badly interpreted signals, despite the crying and the embarrassments, you have never ever lost hope.

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